A while ago a person sent a
request to one of the knitting lists for
garments to be sent to a charity that takes care of orphaned
Muslim children. A
good cause you'd think.
No. It brought forth some of the most
stupid and
wicked posts I have ever read. The concensus seemed to be that no, they would not be doing anything to
support Muslim
child orphans as they would only grow up to
hate us! I was gobsmacked at such
unashamed wickedness. It seems they wanted these children
dead because they were Muslim. In their wicked
ignorance they see all
Muslims as
mad and bad. And they wonder why 'we' are so
hated.
I see no diffrence between
Xtian Fundies,
Muslim Fundies,
Jewish Fundies,
Sikh Fundies,
Hindu Fundies etc. All of them are warped, utterly self centred and wicked in their thoughts and actions. It is no surprise to me that a country so full of religious fundies should be the one so vociferous in it's hatred of all Muslims and so ignorant of the world in which they live.
Fundamentalism is a sickness our world needs to
rid itself of. At it's
root is fear and
child abuse. It is no
accident that these fundies insist on '
educating' their children and keeping them 'protected' from the rest of the world. They
know only too well how children are easily
molded. They understand that if you
indoctrinate a child you are likely to end up with an adult who will espouse the cause
unquestioningly. Instill fear of
damnation,
abandonment,
rejection in a child and you get that child to do your bidding.
That is child abuse. Mental, emotional and spiritual abuse and in many cases physical and sexual abuse. So many so called Xtians advocate the hitting of children. It has nothing to do with love. It is all about fear and control. Nothing else. Some
Muslims know this too and we see the result of it.
I am
not referring here to those people of
all faiths who use their
intelligence. Who know
love and
compassion and who do not
fear their God. These people do not
hate. They do not
prostitute their God. They do not use their God to
justify their
wickedness.
We need to
free ourselves of this fear. We need to
stop abusing our children. We need to stop paying
lip service to the idea that abusing children is
wrong and act as if we really do
believe child abuse is
wrong. If we did that, and not just say the right words or be
sentimental, child abuse
would stop just like that.
Child abuse happens because we as a society
do not care about it. We only
pretend to because it makes us
appear to be what we
are not - caring and compassionate. We don't see children as human beings
like us. We see them as
puppets to mold as we please.
We do things to them we would not
dream of doing to an adult. In fact if we
did to adults what we do to children we'd end up in
prison! Imagine what would happen to a boss who
spanked a member of his office staff! Imagine how an adult would feel if this happened to them.
Angry,
humiliated,
shamed. Especially if people
didn't stop it or
condoned it! Why would a child
feel any diffferent? The only reason adults say it '
didn't harm me' is because they
shut off the anger and shame and pain. Why? Because society says we
must never feel badly toward out parents! Only bad people feel negatively towards their parents.
Honour Thy Mother and Thy Father, no matter what! And people wonder why
children keep quiet! Why they don't say when they are being
hit,
molested,
neglected etc. WE won't let them!
And we
punish them if they
dare to speak up. I know this to be true. Even as a 47 year old man, I am constantly
harangued,
abused,
hated because I dare to speak up. People want people like me to
shut up, to
disappear. We are a
thorn in their side. We keep
shining a light into places they do not want to see or be seen. They want to keep their own suffering
concealed thru shame and fear. Or they want to keep secret the abuse they are
dishing out. Or they want to keep their
power. Those who 'educate' children, who
indoctinate them, who insist on
faith based schools. Who insist on having
total control over children. They want people like me, and there are many like me, to shut up, to disappear. And if they don't kill us, they
belittle us instead. They label us as
mad or
deviant or so
damaged that what we say should not be taken seriously because after all how could such a damaged person make any sense? They accuse us of self pity, of raging, of attacking, of being unstable, of being deficient and twisted.
Anything. Anything. They will say and do anything to
discredit us. We
threaten them. Our words, our speaking out, threatens them, their power. The more they
undermine us, the more they
attack, the more they
lie about us, the more threatened they are.
My own writing about this subject has brought more than one
sick stalker my way. I get regular
abusive emails or
blog comments, vile and
demented ones. It would be tempting to say these sick people must be abuse
victims. Proably true. They turned and have
become abusers. They have
joined the problem. They are not abuse
survivors . They are
abusers. They
identified with the abuser and followed their path. They took the
easy road. Sad beyond words. However, my own reaching out is to those that did survive or are battling to, those that have not become abusers or who have chosen not to be, those who are doing what they can to
break the cycle.
That is my interest. I know from the emails I get that people are being
touched, that people are reading and some are prompted to
share their
secrets as a result. What a
blessing that is.
Abuse is serious and can be deadly. Worst of all, it can turn what would have been a loving caring person into a
monster. Whilst we must
NEVER ever accept the unacceptable, we must also keep in mind that '
there but for the grace of God go I'.