I have just finished watching an episode of Without A Trace. In the final scene, Jack is upset because he told and abuse victim that her life was never get better. And he believes that he lied to her, because in his opinion she could never overcome what happened to her.
This is not true! I know it is not true!
No the damage can never be undone, but one can learn to live with that very well.
I do wish people would stop saying that we who have been abused can never have a good life. We can have a good life, despite everything given love, support, and hope.
By saying that we can never overcome, we are stripped of hope. That is far more damaging than anything else that could be put in our way.