Me. Yes that’s right. I was accused of this today by a person whose own homophobia she is not conscious of.
I had said, quite factually, that in my experience on knitting lists, whilst some may want experienced and opinionated knitters to respond, a female voice is much more readily heard than mine. I know this because I have been on the receiving end of some really vicious attacks for writing when a female has not. Some of these attacks have brought up my sexuality.
The misogynist label pinned on me is ridiculous. Other than John and a couple of other males, ALL my close friends are now and always have been female. I prefer female company.
Never mind that. Misogyny is a label often hurled at gay men by homophobes who wrongly assume that because we don’t want to sleep with them, we must hate women!
GROW UP!!!!!
The list is question is usually quiet and friendly. Once or twice I have had nasty comments made about my knitting skills which I chose to ignore. Right now the venom being directed my way is because I have advertised my sock dyeing hobby on the list. I have done so for months. Suddenly a couple of vipers decided to swipe at me. The fact they are so clearly fuelled by whatever resentment toward me they have seems to pass them by! It has nothing to do with the ads and everything to do with their dislike of me. In itself so stupid as they don’t know me! It is their prejudging of me that leads to their bile toward me but of course they won’t see that. Why am I so sure of this? Partly because of the lies in their emails sent to defend their attack upon me. Daily adverts, daily giving of opinions, frequent misogynist statements. When a person resorts to such lies, you know their agenda is not the ads! This is a quiet list where I post infrequently and where traffic is very low.
You know I ought to have come here straight away and written this instead of rising to the bait as I did.
10 comments:
They're just jealous of your talent Colin. I say just ignore them.
Dear Colin:
I am so sorry you were singled out for your talents and personal preferences. I have a granddaughter who is still young 18,and is just dealing with the ALL the same confusion youngsters go through. Last thing I ever thought I would see on list.
This one made me laugh--not that someone would call you a misogynist, but that anyone would believe it. Most women I know like gay men--possibly because we know you DON'T want to sleep with us! Much easier to be friends that way. ;)
Oh, Dear Colin! I was shocked by the chatter on the list and considered putting in my two bits, but then reconsidered. Somethings the best thing to do with that sort of person is to ignore them. I personally always click on your ads and enjoy them very much.
There's no way anyone can say this about you, if they know you at all! Ah, well. What can you do?
I saw some of this today and just couldn't continue reading it I got so mad. You are a true gentleman, Colin. You didn't really rise to the bait, you tried to correct the misapprehensions in the writers' statements. I would not have been so polite, which is why I stopped reading. Frankly, it was a little shocking! I love the ads for your yarns - more opportunities for "yarn porn" and other temptations, LOL:)! The rest is really nonsense! Anyone who has known you for more than 15 minutes knows that's not true. Besides, if they really really read your remarks, if anything you were decrying the misogyny in others, not saying that you necessarily agreed with that!
Dear Colin,
Please don't pay attention to these foolish people. I've been reading your blog for awhile & frankly, I'm surprised that you have all the love & compassion for others that you do when you consider all that you've had to endure.
I have both straight & not-so-straight friends. I always tell them that I won't ask about their love life & they won't ask about mine.
Thanks for sharing your gifts & puppies with us!
Your post are evil. They make me want to buy more yarn. I have no where left to put more beautiful yarn.
Seriously though, I love your posts. They are always fantastic and you are always insightful and often hilarious.
I've also been lusting after your yarn for a while. You will eventually break me down...
Love you Colin!! You are a sweet guy and glad I am your friend!
People are just unbelievable! If I was able, and knew who they were, I would squish them like the gnats they are!
You are a lovely person :)
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