tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post5837751891593690766..comments2023-04-28T10:53:10.258+01:00Comments on KNITMAN: WHAT?! THAT AGAIN? BULLIESAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14864658805462324550noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-39724920214653270292012-12-04T22:20:53.034+00:002012-12-04T22:20:53.034+00:00What Marsha said. You are not your body. Keep you...What Marsha said. You are not your body. Keep your mind and your soul free. Anitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-68792568557846609272012-12-04T04:14:56.922+00:002012-12-04T04:14:56.922+00:00Dear Colin,
These lovely friends of yours have al...Dear Colin,<br /><br />These lovely friends of yours have already said everything that I can think of to encourage you. You have already "won" in your life. Your soul is compassionate, sensitive and good. I believe that our soul is more important than our physical bodies. The physical body makes our lives not so much fun many times, but our soul brings us through those difficult times. Your soul has brought you through. <br /><br />This may sound trite, but I don't mean it to be that way. Count your blessings when life starts to cloud up....you will find that you already did in your post: your great life, successful long term marriage, living a good life and not only that can deal with physical pain 24/7...and your dogs. Focus on those successes and loves!<br /><br />To Colin's friends who posted....you all have a marvelous way with words and a positive outlook! Thank you for sharing with us!<br />Marshamarshanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-16648358212898645852012-12-03T20:48:46.930+00:002012-12-03T20:48:46.930+00:00Colin,
You don’t get past adversity; you get throu...Colin,<br />You don’t get past adversity; you get through it. You are alive, that is your victory. Advancing age deprives our bodies of many abilities. We adjust, often not graciously, but we adjust. I know what it means when your heart aches for a loved one, and that this is all that is left that you can do. So your John’s hearing is not what it used to be. You can still look into his eyes, and there you will see all that you need to know. It does not fix things, but it helps to get through the dark times. Your load is heavier than most and this is a sorrow. Life is immeasurably precious. I know; I have faced that dark doorway. Live, Live, there is love in your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-92217569208538424742012-12-03T20:45:45.255+00:002012-12-03T20:45:45.255+00:00Colin,
You don’t get past adversity; you get throu...Colin,<br />You don’t get past adversity; you get through it. You are alive, that is your victory. Advancing age deprives our bodies of many abilities. We adjust, often not graciously, but we adjust. I know what it means when your heart aches for a loved one, and that this is all that is left that you can do. So your John’s hearing is not what it used to be. You can still look into his eyes, and there you will see all that you need to know. It does not fix things, but it helps to get through the dark times. Your load is heavier than most and this is a sorrow. Life is immeasurably precious. I know; I have faced that dark doorway. Live, Live, there is love in your life. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-66985278085330083252012-12-03T08:57:21.383+00:002012-12-03T08:57:21.383+00:00What lovely comments, articulated far better than ...What lovely comments, articulated far better than I could. He only wins if you let him win and I think I know you well enough to know that you are not going to let that happen but it's terrible to have to go through the process of sorting it in your he'd again. <br /><br />I honestly think that a lot of your unrest and exacerbated symptoms lately have been caused by the vast upheaval of the renovations and the wedding. I often wondered what Cinderella felt like after she married her Prince, perhaps something like what you are experiencing now. Hugs to you xxxLolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543175487471810736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-41903069317284704952012-12-03T08:07:33.168+00:002012-12-03T08:07:33.168+00:00Iris said...
I have to agree with John and others.... Iris said...<br />I have to agree with John and others. Indeed, you DID beat him, and continue to do so every day you take another breath. The only way he can truly win is for you to give up, to lie down and LET him win. He's a horse's arse and you truly must not allow him to win. It's a mind game. Win it. You simply can not back off now. If you do, it's not he who has defeated you, you will have defeated yourself. You're much bigger than this. So, as difficult as it may seem today, pick yourself up, hold your head high and give him the royal finger. Oh! And the next time he "walks in" uninvited, tell him he's already dead.irisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-14093616035510993472012-12-03T04:58:00.108+00:002012-12-03T04:58:00.108+00:00Oh, Colin, I'm truly sorry you're going th...Oh, Colin, I'm truly sorry you're going through this. I have a small idea what you're going through as I had my own little visitation from the past. My childhood was far from idyllic but nothing as traumatic as yours. I always tell my son there is always someone worse off but I don't think that's necessarily true in your case Colin!<br /><br />Anyway, an innocent comment from my son "ripped the bandaid off" as my husband says and catapulted me back to that time, those feelings, and it took me the longest time to figure it out, that shame. After more tears and a call to my sister who really was genuinely confused, I was able to see it really was their shame Colin. Whatever failings there were belonged to them not me. <br /><br />And that's what I would say to you. It's on your parents. You were just a child that deserved to be loved and they failed you. Worse than that, they physically and emotionally abused you. So Colin, look in the mirror and see the truth. Who won? For all your difficulties, would you ever do that to a child? No? You win. How long have you and John been together? Are you happy? Were your parents happy? I already know the answer. You win again. You're an artist. You have your dogs. You survived but you also made a life for yourself. You have a home with a seriously enviable collection of Doc Martens. That's some serious winning, Colin. It's time to quit the field and draw a line in the sand. <br /><br />For me too. Take care and be well.<br /><br />SusanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14603206.post-70289513564035964722012-12-03T03:01:11.790+00:002012-12-03T03:01:11.790+00:00I don't have the answers, but I do feel that e...I don't have the answers, but I do feel that even if you have on-going problems caused by his abuse, you still have won & he hasn't. The reason is that you are who you are now in spite of his actions & his abuse of you. Yes, your body is failing you & that may be because of his actions, but then again there are people everywhere who's bodies fail them without these actions. My own mil has dementia - her mind has failed her! I ever thought it would happen with her. But it has & even though the few times that I manage to get her on the phone now to talk, she assures me she is going no where, she is leaving us quickly, at least mentally. My sil has MS and she also had no abuse to my knowledge. But yet her body is failing her. We can't control that - we can only control our response to it and if you give in to these feelings, then I feel that he has won, but if you do not, you work your way through them and you come out on the other side as a caring, gentle man, then you have won, not him, regardless of the eventual outcome physically or even mentally.<br /><br />I hope this makes sense. I know for myself, I cannot say what I would be like if not for the abuse I had as a child - maybe I wouldn't even like the person that I would be if not for the abuse. But I know that I didn't let my mother win! I can look at my siblings and see where they are in life & know that I have succeeded in spite of the way I was raised. I feel they let her win for the most part. Maybe that means my stubbornness has helped me to come out the winner. I don't know, but I do know - I am a better person now than I was then!Cindy/KShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01902208663724302611noreply@blogger.com